A Spice Rack of Coping Skills

“Look at the beautiful bluebonnets,” I said, pointing at the vibrant patches along the freeway.

My son, Noah, who was sitting in the back seat, said, “Mommy, I can’t see them through your dirty windshield.”

“You’re right, the bird poop makes it tough to see. I’ll clean it off when we stop and get gas.”

My husband, the scientist, spoke up. “It’s not bird poop, but the remains of dead bugs whose bodies disintegrated as they hit the glass.” He went on to explain how the pressure created by my 70 mph speed caused their bodies to explode. As if I really wanted to know.

As I continued driving, I thought about how obstacles in life can obscure our vision, just like dead bugs.

The residue of trials—discouragement, fear, and pain—can muddy the lens through which we view the Savior and His precious promises.

When we concentrate on the negative, it’s difficult to see the beauty and wonder that God places before us or envision the possibilities that lie beyond the hardships of yesterday and today.

Our only alternative is to pull over and wash our windshield. We may not be able to forget the past, but by changing our focus we prevent it from distorting the future.

Like the apostle Paul said in Phil. 3:14, we have to press toward our goals. Our goals lie ahead not behind us. God wants us take two steps forward. This is difficult to do when we are looking back.

We must also resolve to forgive those who have wronged us and to forgive ourselves. When hurts are deep this can be a difficult thing to do, but we must remember that forgiveness is a process. We have to work toward releasing the pain each day so we can allow room in our hearts for the peace and joy of Christ.

And remember the biggest advantage of a clean windshield—we can see the beautiful bluebonnets all around us.

Song of Songs 2:12,13

For, lo, the winter is past; The rain is over and gone; The flowers appear on the earth. The time of the singing of birds is come, And the voice of the turtle-dove is heard in our land.

Dwan Reed, PhD, LCSW, DTM, of Tallae Counseling & Wellness Center is a therapist specializing in Depression Counseling in Spring, TX

Copyright 2010 by Dwan Reed. All rights reserved.

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