Self-esteem and Dating
Have you ever owned something you took excellent care of, like an heirloom, a favorite sweater, an automobile, or a beloved pet? When we cherish something, we pay attention to its needs and avoid doing things that could harm it. Unfortunately, people often pour more love into others and things than they do for themselves.
What if I told you that I cherish my cat, but I don’t adequately feed or groom her? I don’t take the time to pet or talk to her, and I haven’t taken her to the veterinarian in a long time. You would probably say, “Actions speak louder than words.”
What do your actions towards yourself communicate? Do you make time for rest and relaxation, or are you always rushing from one task to another? Do you have any hobbies or interests, or is it all work and no play? Are you someone who always prioritizes others over yourself, neglecting your self-care? Is your lack of self-care evident through poor health, inconsistent grooming, lack of leisure activities, dull complexion, overweight, and lack of friends?
I always say, “Live with no regrets.” The person who lacks self-care has or will have many of them because they have neglected to care for one of the most precious things that God has given them, THEMSELVES. If we don’t take proper care of ourselves, we won’t be able to climb mountains for long, and we will miss out on healthy, fun times cultivating our inner qualities and delighting in those of others.
To build self-esteem, it is essential to practice self-care. However, some people may not prioritize self-care because they feel they are not worthy enough to spend time on themselves. This feeling of unworthiness may be a result of growing up in an environment where parents neglected their own self-care needs and instead focused on caring for others, often putting themselves last.
To develop a self-care habit, start small and create lasting habits. Here are some small ways to begin your self-care routine.
- Each day, list five things that you are grateful for.
- Read something for fun.
- Go for a short walk.
- Schedule a friend date.
- Practice deep breathing.
- Buy and indoor plant.
- Lotion your entire body.
- Practice yoga.
- Take a bubble bath.
- Plan a staycation – (a vacation around home).